Communicating is an important key to a successful marriage. With that communication you should be talking with your fiancé about your financial situation prior to your wedding day. If you are entering into your marriage with student loans, car payments or any other debt, be open and honest with each other about your financial obligations. At this point in your relationship you have already established a strong foundation. Have faith in your partner and your marriage that you can work through it.
What can happen if you continue to hide your debt? This can lead to distrust and disconnect in your marriage, especially when making future financial situations. So why do you fear sharing this personal information? Are you afraid they are going to run for the hills when they know you owe over $25,000 in student loans? Or are you thinking it’s my financial issue and they don’t need to worry about it. Guess what! You + Me = WE. Set those fears and thoughts aside and start thinking as a team or as “WE”. WE can work through the debt together. WE can make a plan to pay it off and save for our future dreams. WE have faith and trust in our relationship. WE have each others' back.
We came into our marriage with debt and I will admit it felt a little overwhelming when you put it all together. After our wedding there wasn’t a "HIS" & "HERS" debt. It was OUR debt. We didn’t judge each other or point fingers at who had more debt. WE went to work to pay it off as husband and wife.
So, my advice is don’t keep secrets from your fiancé about your debt. Open up the communications lines and have faith in your relationship.
Did you discover your fiancé had debt? How did you feel when they shared the news with you?