Prior to our wedding day we had participated in several marriage classes. We talked about a variety of things pertaining to marriage. Years later I found a worksheet from one of those classes. As individuals we had to write down what we were most concerned about as we entered into marriage and what we currently argue about. We had the same answer: Finances. Keep in mind we were filling these out separately so we didn't discuss this prior to answering the questions.
After the classes and our amazing wedding, we continued on with our day to day life. The elephant in the room (AKA: money) wasn't discussed beyond who was getting out their wallet to pay for dinner or do we have enough money to cover the phone bill so it doesn't get turned off. We could both feel the stress of the money but we still didn't discuss it. We made descent salaries and participated in 401K plans at work. That should be good enough right? Wrong!
We didn't have a plan or a vision in place for our future. It was like climbing down a mountain and assuming their would always be another ledge to land on. What happens when there is no ledge and you need to get down the mountain? What if you didn't communicate with your partner and now they are trying to find their own way down and you are no longer working as a team?
By creating a plan with your partner and setting goals you can get down that mountain (I suggest ropes and harness as part of that plan) just like you can save for your dreams. Don't let your money come between something great you have built together as a couple. I believe it's important to create a vision of the future you hope to have together. Communicate as a couple and don't let the elephant move in.
We now have developed our vision and goals as a couple and it's been amazing for our relationship. My "I Do" Money Connection Coaching Package is designed to help couples through that journey. Communicate and connect with your partner so you can create a beautiful future for your marriage.
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